Author: Lance Garrison
When I casually asked my friend Becky about secret turn-ons for women, she didn’t hesitate for a second. “Doing the dishes,” she responded, as her husband looked at her in disbelief. “That’s hot!”For many women, turn-ons aren’t about traditional romantic gestures like getting roses or canoodling during candlelit dinners. Simple, everyday rituals like pitching in with the dishes or having coffee together at sunrise can be downright sexy. (Listen up, fellas, you don’t even need to spring for a card.)Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, a couples therapist in Mt. Kisco, N.Y., and author of A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage, says,…
There are all sorts of things that can trigger migraines. For some people, it might be lunch.Studies have proven only a few foods, or things in foods, seem to bring on headaches in a lot of people. “I don’t recommend a particular diet to anybody with migraines. But if somebody says, ‘Anytime I eat Brie cheese I get a migraine,’ well then, don’t do that,” says B. Lee Peterlin, DO, director of Johns Hopkins School of Medicine Headache Research.”The data does not support many of the often-cited food triggers, including chocolate. However, it is sound advice if a patient feels a…
It’s the rare couple that doesn’t run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you’ll have a much better chance of getting past them.Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love life going, says marriage and family therapist Mitch Temple, author of The Marriage Turnaround. They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending…
In the wake of the terrorist attack at Moscow’s Crocus City Hall last Friday, which killed at least 143 people, Russia is in mourning. The country’s leaders, on the other hand, are doing something else: They’re plotting.The target is clear. Despite ISIS claiming responsibility for the attack, the Russian leadership has repeatedly blamed Ukraine and its Western backers. Even when President Vladimir Putin grudgingly acknowledged on Monday that the attack was carried out by “radical Islamists,” he suggested they were operating at somebody else’s behest. For now, the Kremlin is keeping its options open: Its spokesman, Dmitri Peskov, said that…
Getting along with your former spouse or partner may seem impossible at times. But if you have kids, there are going to be special days where you will have to be together. Birthdays, holidays, graduations, weddings, and other occasions will be better for everyone if the two of you agree to get along.Psychologist Shirley Thomas, author of Two Happy Homes: A Working Guide for Parents & Stepparents after Divorce and Remarriage, says the first year after a separation is always the hardest. “All family members are grieving,” she says. “It’s unavoidable.”Younger children are especially vulnerable. Thomas says it might be…
You’re both tired. The kids are light sleepers. You’re not happy with your weight. You’re stressed out over deadline pressures at work. There are many reasons people in long-term relationships find themselves reaching for the pillow or the remote control instead of their partner’s body after the sun goes down.But a healthy sex life is a key part of an intimate relationship, and neglecting it can push the two of you further apart.The Solution: Spice It Up”When you’re in a long-term relationship, you get into a routine,” says ob-gyn Renee Horowitz, founder of the Center for Sexual Wellness in Michigan.…
The lights are low. A fire smolders in the fireplace. Two wineglasses sit, half empty, on the nightstand. Your clothes lie in a heap on the floor. You reach for each other. The two of you tumble to the bed, and…Blah.No explosions of passion. No breathy proclamations of desire. No tumultuous climax. Then you wonder: How can everyone in movies and romance novels be having fiery, combustible sex when you and your partner barely create a spark?Sexologist Logan Levkoff, author of the eBook How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex With You, says, “TV shows and movies give us…
Whether it’s your first kiss or your thousandth, whether it’s with someone new or with your longtime partner, kissing leaves an impression — one that lingers long after your lips have disengaged.And, experts say, kissing plays an important role in relationships. “It fosters romantic compatibility,” says Michael Christian, author of The Art of Kissing (published under the pen name William Cane). “The more that people kiss, the more they’re able to communicate on a romantic level.”Many couples hesitate to talk about kissing out of embarrassment, Christian says. But if your first kiss — or any of the many that follow…
I’m one of those people who subscribes to the Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl’s doctrine: “Man’s search for meaning is the primary motivation in his life.” To feel at home in the world, people need to see themselves serving some good — doing important work, loving others well, living within coherent moral communities, striving on behalf of some set of ideals.The great liberal societies that Zakaria describes expanded and celebrated individual choice and individual freedom. But when liberalism thrived, that personal freedom lay upon a foundation of commitments and moral obligations that precede choice: our obligations to our families, to our…
Conventional wisdom holds that married people live longer and are healthier than singles. And research suggests that may be true. Studies show that married people, particularly men, are less likely to die early and are less likely to die from heart disease or stroke. But why? And what about people who are in committed relationships but haven’t said “I do”? Or those who are happily single? Experts weigh in on long-term love and your well-being.Safer behavior. Christopher Fagundes, PhD, psychologist and researcher at The Ohio State University, says there is less risk-taking and substance abuse when couples marry — even…